DEAR ABBY: I cannot stand my husband's sister. She thinks way too much of herself. She "had" to get married to a foreigner (who NEVER works), and her three grown sons still live at home and don't work or go to school. She works several odd jobs to support the lazy men in her life.
She's 53, but she was always rebellious and a hell-raiser. At family events she dresses like a streetwalker. My poor husband was embarrassed at the last family wedding because she was so scantily dressed and looking for attention. It about kills me and my children whenever she comes over to our house with her drugged-out husband. She is rude to me and makes backhanded comments.
I can't believe that after all these years, I still tolerate this garbage. I'd love to end these get-togethers, but how do I do it, because she's "family"? -- FED UP SISTER-IN-LAW
DEAR FED UP: It shouldn't be all that hard to accomplish. Tell your husband that because of the way his sister has treated you all these years, you are finally drawing the line. You no longer want her (or her drugged-up husband) in your home. If they drop by unexpectedly, tell them you can't entertain them right then and suggest that in the future they call before showing up.
At family functions you must attend, limit your exposure to her. Be polite but concentrate on other relatives whose company you do enjoy. You can't control her mouth or what she wears, but you can choose to ignore the woman, and that's what I recommend.