DEAR ABBY: I was in a relationship for 12 years. "Jenny" was my best friend. I had to end our relationship because she had allowed her mother to destroy it.
Jenny is 35 and her mother cooks, cleans, does her laundry and makes her bed for her. I would return from work and find her mother sleeping next to her in bed every day. It seemed to me to be her way of putting a wedge in between us.
If we went to a concert, we had to buy three tickets because Jenny always had to bring her mother. When I would ask Jenny out to dinner, she would say, "Can Mom come?" Is this normal? If we had an argument, her mother would get involved and it would become two against one, and I would always be in the wrong. Nothing I did was right.
Since we broke up, Jenny doesn't speak to me. I lost my best friend, and I don't know what to do. -- THREE'S TOO MUCH COMPANY
DEAR TOO MUCH COMPANY: Jenny's primary relationship was -- and probably forever will be -- with her mother. You may have felt that Jenny was your best friend, but Jenny's best friend is her mother -- a bond that her mother works very hard to keep intact. Accept it, expand your social circle and move on. That's all you can do because Jenny is taken.