DEAR ABBY: I am a retired widower. After my wife died, my first cousin "Julia" invited me to visit her in Florida over the winter. She's seven years my junior, divorced, lives alone and is a successful Realtor. We had a good time during the two months I was there.
The next summer I invited Julia to my home. We had a great time together, but then she had to return to Florida for business. I visited her last winter and one evening while relaxing and watching a movie, we became intimate. It seemed so natural. After that, I moved from the guest room into hers.
Julia is now contemplating retirement. We are planning for me to sell my home and move in with her. We are not thinking about marriage or commingling our funds and assets. Our legal documents are in order.
Abby, what would you suggest we say to our children, other relatives or anyone else who inquires about our relationship? We have enjoyed each other's company so much. We just want to grow older together. -- KISSING COUSIN
DEAR COUSIN: No announcements are necessary. If you are asked, just smile and say you are both happy, healthy and enjoying each other's company. Eventually, they'll get the picture.