DEAR ABBY: My birthday was last week and my boyfriend gave me $100 cash to spend on myself. I ended up spending the money on groceries for the both of us and on gas.
If my boyfriend asks what I used his gift for, should I tell him it was for groceries for us? I have asked my friends and they said different things, such as, tell him the truth, or something like "I'm saving it." -- SAVANNAH IN GEORGIA
DEAR SAVANNAH: If he asks, tell him the truth. The money was spent on things you needed -- groceries for the both of you and gas. And if he finds fault with that -- although I can't imagine that he would -- remind him that once a gift is given, it belongs to the recipient to do with as she (or he) pleases.