DEAR ABBY: I am moving out of my parents' place soon to be with one of my best guy friends, but I haven't told my parents who I'm moving in with. In the past, they have caught on to my lies when I was going through my "phase," but I have been trying hard to be honest with them, so I don't want to lie.
When I briefly alluded to it with Mom as a "what if" situation, she didn't handle it well. She freaked out. They don't understand that I can have a guy best friend without having a sexual relationship with him.
Now I am torn. Should I be honest so they don't call me a liar down the road? Please help! -- MISS INDEPENDENT IN COLORADO
DEAR MISS INDEPENDENT: Do not lie to your parents. If you do, you are only forestalling the inevitable. If you are mature enough to be moving in with someone, you should be able to tell them where they can find you and who your roommate will be.
You and this young man should explain that while you are good friends, you are not a romantic couple. Having a platonic male roommate can have its advantages -- as long as the parameters of the arrangement are clearly understood before either of you signs a lease, and your financial responsibilities (and his) are clearly stated, preferably in writing.