DEAR ABBY: I am a 58-year-old recent widower. My wife and I were very happy for 29 years, and that included a satisfying sex life. Although I am not ready to date yet, I continue to have a strong sex drive.
I'm finding the Internet is a good alternative to "hooking up" at this time. However -- and this is embarrassing to admit at my age -- I'm beginning to wonder if I have crossed a line into spending too much time online.
My question is, how much is too much? I want to be healthy and in balance with this, but for the first time, I understand how people can become addicted to Internet porn. Guidelines, please? -- JUST WONDERING IN GEORGIA
DEAR JUST WONDERING: You have my sympathy for your loss. Because you are concerned enough about the amount of time you're spending on adult Internet sites that you're asking me about it, I think we both know that you're not spending enough time in the real world. If this has become so much of a preoccupation that you're substituting porn for relationships with real people, then you are "overdosing" and could benefit from talking to a psychologist about it. (You might find it easier to confide in one who's male.)