DEAR ABBY: I am a male in the training department at my office. A lot of times, because the people I train are new hires, there are dress code violations from people who appear to be testing the limits. Most of the violations involve women who wear clothing that's too revealing, in spite of the fact they receive a document at the start of training explaining what is and is not appropriate attire.
I feel uncomfortable addressing dress code issues with the opposite sex. I have always asked a female in the department to do it for me. My problem is, my manager has told me I need to be able to deal with issues like this if I want to move forward in my career.
My question to you and your readers is, as a woman, would you feel more uncomfortable with a male boss addressing a "too much cleavage" or "skirt too short" issue than you would with another female? And have you any suggestions for wording in these situations? -- DRESSED FOR SUCCESS IN VIRGINIA
DEAR DRESSED FOR SUCCESS: Speaking for myself, I think I'd prefer to hear that message from another woman -- however, my preference is beside the point. You have a job to do, and that is to enforce the rules of your company. So when you tell a female employee that she's not complying with the dress code, use the wording in the employee handbook or the document the person received when she was hired. (Hopefully, the wording is specific.)