DEAR ABBY: I'm a senior in high school and will be off to college next year. Like my older brother, I will be attending a school 30 minutes from home.
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A problem he has, and that I'm worried about, is setting boundaries with our father. Dad works near the college and insists on stopping by to visit my brother at least once a week. If my brother refuses to meet with him, Dad guilt-trips him and gets angry.
I want to experience independence in college. How can I avoid this problem and set visitation boundaries with my father? -- COLLEGE BOUND IN GEORGIA
DEAR COLLEGE BOUND: So many people your age who write to me have no father involved in their lives at all, and you appear to have a little too much. I agree that by the time a student reaches college, it is time for more independence than your father seems willing to give your brother.
If your mother is in the picture, perhaps she could reason with your dad. However, if that's not possible, your brother -- and you -- may have to transfer to other schools to put some distance between you.