DEAR ABBY: My friend dated someone I'll call "Joel" a few times. She said he was nice, but she couldn't get past the fact that he's 27 and still lives at home with his mom. He is also rather shy.
I ran into Joel a couple of months ago. We started chatting and I ended up asking him out. Abby, he's a great guy. He's good-looking, has a steady job, drives a new truck and has money in the bank. He calls when he says he will and never "forgets" his wallet at home. He always insists on paying for dates, and he's a good cook. And to top it off –- his mom is amazing!
I have never been happier, but now my so-called friend is angry with me. Now she is telling people that I "took" Joel away from her. (She had already told him she wasn't interested in him when I asked him out.) I'm losing a friend, but there is no way I'm giving him up. Maybe this will serve as a warning to other women. Don't count a man out because one or two things bother you. Look carefully at the whole picture before you judge someone. -– HAPPY IN THE MIDWEST
DEAR HAPPY: Amen! Many a jewel has gone undiscovered until it was spotted by someone who recognized the "real thing" when she -– or he -– saw it. In this case, it was you. Enjoy.