DEAR ABBY: I have just started college, and I'm afraid I made a mistake in my selection of colleges. My decision was between two schools. One was in my home state and fairly close to my family; the other was out of state. I chose to attend the college in my home state because it is ranked slightly higher academically and because the tuition would be significantly less.
The school I rejected is located in a large city that's very different from where I live. Abby, I can't help but feel that I have made a mistake. I'm afraid I'm going to miss out on the experience of living someplace different and being away from home. I don't want to be haunted by the "what if" factor, but it's always in the back of my mind. I worry that I'll spend the next four years wondering how my life might have been if I had gone to the out-of-state school. How can I stop feeling this way? -- NEW COLLEGE STUDENT
DEAR STUDENT: At some point or another, everyone wonders what would have happened if they had turned left instead of turning right in their lives. It's normal -- as long as it doesn't become an obsession. My advice is to relax and enjoy this first taste of campus life, and if you still feel the need to experience the "big city," transfer in your junior year. If you still want to, that is.