DEAR ABBY: My husband and I expect our first child in about a month. We know it will be a girl, and we are now in the process of selecting a name for her.
I love a certain unusual name, "Dallas," and my husband likes it, too. It also works well with our last name. The problem is, my husband's sister, "Rita," has apparently claimed the name and forbids us to use it. Rita was almost named Dallas herself because that's where she was conceived. In truth, my husband and I are considering the name because of the story about his sister.
Abby, Rita isn't pregnant, married, or actively trying to have a baby. For all we know, she may never have one, let alone a girl. My husband and I really want to name our little girl Dallas, but we're worried about hurting Rita. Is it wrong to "steal" the name, and is Rita justified in telling us not to use it? -- MOMMY-TO-BE IN MARYLAND
DEAR MOMMY-TO-BE: I shouldn't have to tell you that stealing is wrong, and you already know it will create hard feelings. Unless you're prepared for the possible confusion of having two first cousins with the same name, I'd advise against giving your baby a name that has so much emotional significance to your husband's sister. How about naming her "Houston"?