DEAR ABBY: Three years ago, my boyfriend, "Pete," moved from New Hampshire to Missouri to be close to me. We have been living together for one year. Pete's family still reside in New Hampshire, so he rarely sees them.
Pete is very reluctant to visit my family here, because when he does, he says it makes him miss his own family. I think he is just making an excuse not to socialize with my family -- who love him.
We are supposed to be married next year. Help! -- MARY IN MISSOURI
DEAR MARY: I see a red flag. Your family appears to be warm and welcoming. Have you met Pete's family? Do you know what they are like, and what their relationship is with Pete? I'm concerned that your fiance is uncomfortable around your family. His absence must cast a pall over family get-togethers. This is a poor way to start a permanent relationship. I advise premarital counseling for the both of you -- and a long engagement.