DEAR ABBY: I'm not sure how to handle a problem I have when I call my sister. I love her dearly. Not only do I want to talk with her, but I NEED to talk with her. We live in different states and rarely get to see each other.
Almost every time I call her, I get very frustrated because I feel like I'm talking to a mother who has a 2-year-old child begging for attention. However, it isn't her child -- it's her husband. He gropes at her and talks in her ear while we try to make conversation. It's very distracting for her and irritating to me.
Since I work during the day, I have to call in the evening. On weekends I never know when he'll be home. How can I handle this? I haven't called her in weeks and I feel guilty about it. -- PERPLEXED ON THE EAST COAST
DEAR PERPLEXED: Unless your timing is terrible and you have a knack for catching your sister and her husband in an amorous embrace, or he finds the ringing of a telephone sexually stimulating, I'd say you have him pegged correctly.
Other than telling your sister how his actions make you feel, there is nothing you can do. This is a boundary problem she will have to handle.
In the future, ask her to call YOU when she has some privacy.