DEAR ABBY: When I opened the newspaper today, in the front section was a photograph of Lucille Ball. Her blue eyes, red hair and lovely smile reminded me of my mother. My mother was only 49 when she passed away last month.
Mom had a hard life. She was weak from the beginning. She weighed 1 pound at birth and had only one lung. Her whole life, she hated going to doctors. I try to comfort my stepfather because he blamed himself for not forcing Mother to consult a doctor when she first started feeling sick.
Abby, please tell your readers that if they have a parent who is sick, and he or she says, "Don't worry about me, I'll be fine," TAKE CHARGE. Sick people don't always know what's good for them, especially when they're as stubborn as a red-headed woman. -- OLDEST DAUGHTER MISSING MOM
DEAR DAUGHTER: I offer my condolences for the loss of your beloved mother, who died at such an early age.
I'm pleased to pass along your important message. Sometimes serious symptoms can be "vague" -- as in heart problems in women. If they persist, the safest thing is to have them checked by a physician. There's truth to the saying, "An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure." In a case like this, an ounce of prevention can be lifesaving.