DEAR ABBY: My husband and I have been discussing buying a recreational vehicle that we could take to New Hampshire or California. However, I have some reservations about traveling with him, as he gets too intense when he gets behind the wheel of a car.
Past experiences have made car travel sheer hell, because he fills up the gas tank and refuses to stop for anything until the tank indicator reads empty. It doesn't matter whether the dog or I have to go to the bathroom, or need to get out and stretch our legs, or if we need to eat or are thirsty. As if that doesn't make us miserable enough, he insists on doing all the driving at 10 to 20 miles above the speed limit. All the scenery is a blur!
I have discussed these issues with him and he assures me that he will change, but I have been with him almost 20 years, and I don't see it happening in the near future. I am concerned that we'll end up killing each other.
Should I say yes? -- TRAVEL TERROR
DEAR TRAVEL TERROR: Heck no! Your husband has proven that once he gets behind the wheel he's disrespectful of the law, insensitive to your needs, and so focused on getting to the destination that you cannot enjoy the trip. Do your bladder a favor. Take a bus, take a train, but do not agree to accompany him on the highway.