DEAR ABBY: I have been dating a wonderful guy for 18 months. I love him with all my heart and know his love for me is true.
My problem is, I think I would rather be his friend than his girlfriend. He is everything a woman could ever dream of, but I don't view this as a permanent relationship, and I don't want to stand in the way of his finding someone to share his life with.
Should I continue dating him and see if my feelings change, or throw away the best thing that has ever happened to me by telling him goodbye? Sign me ... "K" FROM ARKANSAS
DEAR "K": You say you love this wonderful man with all your heart, but you would rather be his friend than his girlfriend. You are rationalizing. If you loved him, you would want to be his girlfriend. Face it: If the "chemistry" isn't there by now, it never will be. Do yourself (and him) a favor and be honest with him. Tell him he's the most wonderful man you've ever known, but the magic is missing, and while you hate hurting him, you want him to be free to search for mutual love. He'll survive, and with any luck you will both find true love.