DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: When my son got married, his sister was one of the bridesmaids. As a matter of fact, my daughter-in-law asked her before she asked her own two sisters, which I thought was a nice way of showing how important my daughter is to her.

Now that my daughter is engaged, she has told me she is only having her best friends as her bridesmaids. When I said she should ask her sister-in-law also, she said she has no obligation to include her in the party, especially since she is having our granddaughter, her niece, as the flower girl. She thinks that is enough and that I am being dumb thinking my daughter-in-law will care because making their daughter her flower girl is her way of including her brother’s family in the wedding party.

My daughter-in-law is a very sweet, sensitive, and generous person. I cannot imagine she will not be stung by being left out of my daughter’s wedding party.

Do you think this was the right thing for my daughter to do? --- NOT PLEASED

DEAR NOT PLEASED: Although it’s common practice, it isn’t by any means a rule that brides have to ask those whose wedding parties they’ve been in to be part of their own.

It’s your daughter’s wedding, and who she chooses as her attendants is ultimately her choice.

While you may be surprised and disappointed by your daughter-in-law’s exclusion, I agree that by having her niece as the flower girl, your daughter’s at least apparently honoring her brother’s and sister-in-law’s close connection.

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: My son and father have stopped talking to one another because my son refused to take the car my father offered him for free. My son called it a “real piece of sh#t,” which he said will cost more for him to fix up than it’s worth.

My father claims it’s a classic that only needs some TLC to get back to top shape. It’s a ’69 Corvette and was my dad’s dream car, which he saved up for years to buy and kept running for years until he wasn’t able to give his time and money to keeping it up.

In all honesty, it has gotten a little rough, and my son’s no mechanic, so he may be right that it would cost more to fix than getting a newer second-hand car.

My father told me how he had only been holding onto the car until my son was old enough to take over on it. What was meant to be a special gift has been flatly refused. I can see why it is bugging my father.

Should I try to persuade my son to just take the damn car and then do with it what he wants just to keep the peace? --- ALL OVER A CAR

DEAR ALL OVER A CAR: There’s nothing wrong with your wanting to be a peacemaker, but I’m not sure your plan will work.

Your son’s made it clear he has no use for the proposed gift, and your dad can’t see how something he considers a treasure could be deemed worthless by his own grandson.

Beyond perhaps telling your son not to disrespect his grandfather’s old prize, I’d say step back and let the whole thing blow over. There’s little to be gained by you becoming part of an already tense situation.

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: I wasn’t even doing anything stupid or risky, and I still managed to blow out my shoulder. I had to have extensive surgery, followed by inpatient rehab. That all meant I left my teenage son and daughter in charge of our house for 11 long days and nights.

When my daughter picked me up from the rehab center, she said we had to stop and pick up some groceries because we didn’t have anything in the house.

The whole time I was away I kept asking them if they were eating and taking care of things at the house. They promised me they were.

When we got home, the fridge was bare, but the house was a sh*tshow. I couldn’t believe they couldn’t raise a finger to keep the place decent, especially since I’m extremely limited in what I can do until I’m more healed.

Was it too much to ask for two almost adults to keep the house from becoming a junkheap? --- IT DOESN’T TAKE MUCH

DEAR IT DOESN’T TAKE MUCH: I don’t blame you for being upset with your kids. Hopefully your son and daughter got the place put back together once you were supervising them.

It might not be a bad idea during your recovery to get your kids into the habit of helping out around the house. If they weren’t already assigned regular chores, now’s a good time to give them some. At least one of them is old enough to drive, so that means they can do more of the household errands you usually cover.

Pushing them to step up while you’re temporarily out of commission should do you good now and hopefully give them a leg up for their adult lives by reinforcing the domestic skills that keep a home habitable.