DEAR ABBY: I have been with my boyfriend for four months and recently lost my virginity to him. I am incredibly in love with him.
I would like to tell my mother about losing my virginity because I want to get on birth control pills, but I'm afraid of how she'll react.
My mom is very understanding and I can usually tell her anything, but I'm afraid that if I tell her this, she'll try to keep me from seeing my boyfriend. She likes him a lot and has always trusted us. Please help me. -- AFRAID SHE'LL END IT IN NEW JERSEY
DEAR AFRAID: Sex is a grown-up responsibility, and since you have taken the step, it is extremely important that you act with maturity. Your mother is your best friend, and although she may be disappointed, she will understand. Now that you are sexually active, it is essential that you practice birth control and learn what you need to know about sexually transmitted diseases that are rampant.
If your mother is as understanding as I think she is, she won't stop you from seeing your boyfriend.