DEAR ABBY: Ever since my fiance and I became engaged six months ago, something has been bugging me. I'm 19 years old, and the man I love with all my heart is 20.
We plan to be married sometime next spring. Meanwhile, whenever I tell people our marriage plans, instead of offering congratulations, most respond by asking, "How old are you?" Abby, I think this is extremely rude and insensitive. Worse yet, when I say that I'm 19 and my fiance is 20, I usually receive another rude comment such as, "Tsk, tsk ... you are so young!"
Abby, how should I respond to such insensitive remarks? In my opinion our ages should not be an issue, since neither one of us is a minor. -- IRRITATED
DEAR IRRITATED: Please don't be too hard on those who ask your age. You obviously look much younger than you are.
When people say, "Tsk, tsk, you are so young!" smile and reply, "Thank you." Then take pleasure in the knowledge that you will probably always look younger than your years, which will be an advantage as you grow older. Trust me.