DEAR ABBY: My mother and I have been reading your column for years and we value your opinion.
She and I were discussing a common courtesy. The example we used was saying "Good morning," or "How are you?" to everyone, including people you don't like.
Mother says she does this all the time -- it makes her feel good, and lets people know that she acknowledges their presence.
I say that although it makes her feel good, it is hypocritical to do so, as it gives the people she doesn't like the wrong impression and encourages continued conversation she may not want.
We would like your opinion. -- BETTY IN CARLSBAD, N.M.
DEAR BETTY: Saying "Good morning" or "Good afternoon" or "Good evening" is a gracious, friendly greeting. However, some people say, "How are you?" intending it as only a greeting, but it may be taken literally, and in return one may get a litany of symptoms. So it's safer to stick with "Good morning," "Good afternoon" and "Good evening."