DEAR ABBY: I am glad you agreed with Grandma! Her 11-year-old grandson and 8-year-old granddaughter should not be sleeping with their father -- or each other.
When I was 10 years old, my 12-year-old brother and I were forced to sleep together in one bed at a cousin's house. In the middle of the night I found my brother on top of me! He molested me until I was 17 years old, and to this day I have not told a soul -- including my husband, and we have been married for nearly 20 years.
I am so ashamed of it, that even now if I think of it for a few minutes, it makes me physically ill!
Please, parents, friends, relatives -- don't let this happen to children. I came from a very respectable family, and I am sure that nobody would believe that this happened to me. But it did! -- KEEPING MY SECRET
DEAR KEEPING: Please, don't keep your secret any longer. Contact your local rape crisis center and inquire about counseling and support groups for people who have kept this kind of secret for years. You have nothing to be ashamed of -- you were a victim. Victims should bear no guilt.
In counseling, you will learn that in order to heal, you must confront your brother after all these years and tell him how much pain he has caused you. With counseling this can be accomplished. Trust me. Please get counseling, then write again and let me know how you are. I care.