DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: It may be I’m just not used to it, but I have decided I’m uneasy about my daughter’s new boyfriend not because he comes off like some of the prizes she’s been with before, but because he at least acts the part of a real gentleman.
I mean, when is the last time you saw a young man run round the car to open the door for his date? And he’s consistently addressing my husband as “sir” and me as “ma’am”.
My daughter hasn’t met his family yet, but she said from what her boyfriend’s told her, his parents came here from a small town in Spain, where people were raised to treat everyone with kindness and respect.
When I told my mother about the new boyfriend she saw his actions and ways as good things and an indication of his being a “classy young man.” However, she also raised me to think too good to be true usually is.
Who would you bet is right? --- IS HE FOR REAL?
DEAR IS HE FOR REAL?: For your daughter’s sake, I hope she’s found a true gentleman. They’re out there, as your mother is apparently more willing to believe than you are.
The young man may very well be the product of a home where a premium was put on good manners. I don’t see anything wrong with that.
For your daughter’s sake at least, I’d be inclined to not be too quick to judge him harshly. A better acquaintance with him will hopefully help you get an idea of who he truly is.
Even if he doesn’t turn out to be your cup of tea, so long as he treats your daughter well I don’t see any problem.