DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: When my grandfather passed, he had it in his will to pass out some of the heirlooms he had held onto to our family members.

Ever since I was a small child, I was fascinated by a photo of his great-grandmother, who I look just like.

There is a family legend that the photo is haunted by the spirit of my great-great-grandmother, who was very involved in Spiritualism back in her day.

I used to laugh it off, because I not only do not believe in ghosts, but I am the least superstitious person I know.

I am beginning to rethink all that since inheriting the photograph.

I have had to replace the glass on the frame twice now because it has dropped from the wall where it is hanging and cracked the glass.

I have several other family photos hung on the same wall and have never had any trouble with any of them falling. They are all on the same kinds of hangers with the same kinds of hooks.

There was also one time when I found the photo on the table near the wall display, leaning on a picture of my own children.

I was the only one in the house at the time, and I know it was where it belonged when I got up that morning and passed it on the way to the kitchen to make breakfast.

I know it sounds strange, but I feel like I should put the photo somewhere else, where I don’t have to see it all the time and wonder about it.

Does that make me slightly cracked? I have asked everyone in my family if they have played around with the photo and everyone said no. --- DON’T BELIEVE IN GHOSTS

DEAR DON’T BELIEVE IN GHOSTS: I can understand your being unnerved by what seems like unexplainable happenings, and I doubt you’re losing your mind.

My guess is there’s a completely non-paranormal reason for the photograph’s falling down and getting moved, regardless of the claims of innocence among your family members.

However, since I believe you should feel safe and comfortable in your own home, I agree with your idea of placing the photo someplace in the house you and other members of you household are less likely to visit, without letting anyone else in on your secret relocation spot.

If the picture stays put and intact, then that ought to demonstrate whether or not you’ve foiled your family ghost, whomever it turns out to be.

Dear Readers: Best wishes to you and yours for a Healthy, Happy New Year!

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: During the time I was with my ex-fiancé I grew extremely close to his family and friends. We also made a lot of friends together during our time as a couple.

I broke off the engagement when I found out “R” had a thing with a co-worker right before we got engaged, but after we had long been in what I thought was a committed relationship. When I found out, he swore it was over and that he would never, ever do something like that again.

I just felt and still do feel like I cannot trust him. His betrayal broke my heart.

I had already been invited to the wedding of a couple both R and I are close to. The invitation wasn’t as a plus one, but was addressed directly to me. I got it and sent in my RSVP before I called off my engagement. But I have been discovering now that we are broken up, people are siding with R, and the maid of honor (also somebody I thought was my friend too) texted me it would be for the best if I didn’t show up at the wedding, and said the groom felt the same way, after how I treated R!

I don’t know what story they heard, but R’s the one who cheated on me!

I knew things would change after we broke up, but it hurts that R’s turning people against me even to the extent of getting me uninvited to a wedding.

I have no intention of going to the wedding, especially now, but do you think it’s right for people to uninvite somebody to a wedding like this? --- A GUEST NO MORE

DEAR A GUEST NO MORE: While it isn’t the most polite or proper thing to do, this isn’t the first time I’ve heard about someone being informally uninvited to a formal event.

A lot of things change when a relationship ends, as you’re well aware. You’re clearly experiencing one of the most painful developments, the splitting into camps among friends.

I find it interesting that it was the maid of honor who was either chosen or took it upon herself to break the news that you’re better off skipping the wedding.

Her comments regarding how the groom’s feeling make it clear which side of the story is being shared and believed by at least some of your old circle. That makes me agree with your wise choice to skip the event. This way you can spare yourself from exposure to further insult and injury.

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: I have always been a super homebody. I am married to a woman who is anything but, strange as that sounds. I have a small group of friends, she’s everybody’s friend.

This has long made for many awkward social situations, especially during the holidays when my wife wants to go to every party and I want to go to none.

This year we were invited to a huge New Year’s Eve blast of a party being given by her boss. She really wants to go, and I really want to spend the night with my parents and my favorite aunt and uncle, who I don’t get to see except for when they come in to stay with my parents for the holidays.

I am trying to convince my wife she should go to her party and let me head to my parents’ for the evening. It’s the perfect solution to me, but she says she feels like she’s not even married if I never want to go out with her other than to dinner and gatherings with my friends and family.

Is that fair, or is she being unreasonable — or am I? --- NO NEED TO PARTY BIG

DEAR NO NEED TO PARTY BIG: I, like you, am not a fan of big parties, and prefer quieter times and settings, so I’m with you there.

However, since the particular party you mention is being hosted by her boss, it might be a good idea to at least put in an appearance for your wife’s sake.

After shaking some hands and meeting a few of your wife’s coworkers and their significant others, you could beg off staying too long because of another commitment to visit with out-of-town relatives.

If your wife chooses to stay, then she’ll be able to indulge in her kind of entertainment, and you’re free to do your thing with your family.

It’ll likely mean you and your wife will miss that kiss at midnight, but perhaps the two of you can start a new tradition of welcoming the New Year not at the stroke of 12, but on January 1 instead.