DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: I am always grateful to my dad for when he drops my daughter off at preschool for me. He gets some time with her and she loves her Pop-Pop. But my dad is a real softie, and when she turns on the tears at the front door of her preschool, he breaks down and can’t bring himself to leave her. He ends up taking her for a treat at the downtown bakery and then brings her home.
I count on those three hours with my daughter at preschool to catch up on some rest. I have a newborn at home and he has yet to sleep through the night.
I don’t want to hurt my dad’s feelings, so how do I make him understand that he needs to drop my daughter off at preschool, and I need my time to rest? --- MY HELPFUL DAD DOESN’T UNDERSTAND
DEAR MY HELPFUL DAD DOESN’T UNDERSTAND: For starters, it may help if you plead the case to him you shared with me — how much you count on those few precious hours a week to try and make up for lost overnight sleep.
Next, I’m guessing you’re paying tuition at the preschool, and you could remind your dad that it’s money down the drain if your daughter isn’t attending on the days she’s supposed to.
One other suggestion would be to offer to let your father take his granddaughter for a few hours on some non-preschool days, if he doesn’t already. You’d get some bonus rest and the two of them can enjoy extra time together.