DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: This year will be the first time we’ll be able to take a vacation since we took our oldest son to visit my parents in Wisconsin four years ago when he was almost one. Since then we’ve had a second baby boy, who is now nearly three.
This year my wife wants to take our boys with us when we go to visit some college friends in Savannah, where neither of us has ever yet been. Our friends want to take us around to some clubs and blackwater kayaking, and other kinds of things that are not at all for young kids like ours, which means we’d have to find a sitter down there for them, and I don’t think my wife realizes that as clearly as she should.
My mother-in-law has already said she would be very happy to take her grandkids for the whole week, but my wife is resisting.
We both really need this time away from all the usual routines. I work from home half the time, and my wife is home fulltime taking care of the boys.
What can I do to convince her we can have a perfectly good vacation without the kids in tow? --- LEAVE THEM HOME
DEAR LEAVE THEM HOME: I’m able to empathize with your wife’s reluctance to leave your children behind for the first time. In her case, it’s probably particularly difficult because she’s usually with them all day long.
Maybe you and her mother can sell the week away for you two as a chance for the kids to have their own vacation at Camp Grandma. It might tip the balance in convincing your wife if she knows that not only will your children be in good and loving hands, but that they’ll have a few fun adventures of their own, while you and she take advantage of an opportunity to recharge and refresh yourselves, which generally is to everyone’s advantage in the long run.