DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: I know that I am not always on time for everything, especially now that I have two kids of my own, but I have a friend who even before we started having families could NEVER make it anywhere on time. She was even late for her own wedding.
Back when it was just a group of friends or just us two getting together, it didn’t seem so bad. Now, though, when I don’t have as much time for a social life, it really bugs me that she can’t make it to our meetups on time. Whenever I say anything to her, she just laughs it off.
I don’t think she does it on purpose. I just think she’s one of those genetically unable to be on time people.
What can I do to waste less time waiting for my always late friend? --- WAITING, WAITING, WAITING
DEAR WAITING, WAITING, WAITING: When our kids were small, I used to try and calculate at least five extra minutes preparation time per child for getting out the door. It’s like building in traffic or bad weather time.
Perhaps something along that same line may work with your perpetually tardy buddy. For instance, if you’re able to meet her at noon, tell her to be there at 11:45 a.m. If she beats you to your rendezvous, then it’ll be her turn to wait. If she’s late for the designated time, she may be at least a little closer to what you originally had in mind.
Another option is to become a time nag, but in my experience, constantly prodding someone to be prompt rarely works.