DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: I met “Sarah” while at university. We lost touch for a few years, but then reconnected at a gallery in a part of town I usually don’t frequent. We seemed to hit if off, and started meeting up more and more often. While I can’t claim we’re best friends, I thought we were developing a lovely friendship.
Last week Sarah posted a shot of me dancing with my boyfriend at a wedding. I’d sent it to her because she asked to see a picture of my dress. The entire post was dedicated to speculating on how such a cow could snag such a hot boyfriend.
When I confronted her about it, she laughed it off, saying it was just her idea of an ironic little joke, that plainly she wouldn’t say anything to intentionally hurt my feelings, and so on.
I’m not one to hold a grudge or to be overly sensitive, but this feels like anything but a joke to me. Am I wrong, or is Sarah? --- TOO SENSITIVE?
DEAR TOO SENSITIVE?: My personal policy is to at least try to give someone the benefit of the doubt. It may be as Sarah claims, that she was going for tongue-in-cheek.
If you see value in what’s been a growing friendship with Sarah, then it might be worth letting this go and taking her at her word. If, however, you’re aware that she has a mean or jealous streak, and that this is just the first taste of behavior you’re not comfortable with, then perhaps it would be wiser to back off and not pursue the relationship any further, at least not at this time.