DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: We bought our house from an elderly couple who rarely used their back yard, and certainly were not at all noisy.
Here we come with a teen and two tweens. One set of our new neighbors treats us like invaders. First they put up opaque side panels on their back deck, just on the side of our house. Next came the 6 foot stockade fence right behind the existing chain link one, also facing our property.
The latest attempt to pretend we don’t exist was the painting — yes, painting — of all the windows on the side of the house that faces ours.
It isn’t like we have young children screaming around the yard. We moved in late last summer, right before school started, and we have not had so much as an extended family cookout. It’s just our three kids, my husband and me, and we’re barely outside, especially since the weather turned cold.
I haven’t done more than attempt to exchange brief, cordial greetings with these people, who appear to be roughly the same age as my husband and me, yet we’re made to feel like we’re sleeper agents or lepers or something else that’s as unwanted as can be.
We’ve done nothing to these people, so why should we be treated like this? --- DON’T LIKE THE TREATMENT
DEAR DON’T LIKE THE TREATMENT: The neighbor-proofing is all the information you need to know you’re not living next-door to the friendly, outgoing type. I find the window-painting weird and over-the-top, but if it makes them happy, so be it.
These people are clearly not revving up the welcome wagon, so I’d stop taking it personally and chalk it up to their strange preferences, not anything your family brought to the block.