DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: I don’t get why my father, who is in his late 50s, wants to get a motorcycle and come the spring, do a cross-country trip. Both his girlfriend and my mom (divorced from my dad for nearly 10 years) are also worried, but my boyfriend, who has his own bike, openly encourages him, and that has caused more than one fight between us.
I honestly think my dad is going through some kind of mid-life crisis. His older brother had a cancer scare last year, and now, it seems like my dad is convinced he is next and will not be so lucky.
I can’t support my dad’s decision on this, and we argue whenever it comes up. I know I could just avoid seeing him for awhile, but we are close and that would be hard on us both.
What argument can we possibly make, other than that we love him and think this is a bad idea, which so far does not seem to be enough to convince him what a bad idea this is? --- DAREDEVIL’S DAUGHTER
DEAR DAREDEVIL’S DAUGHTER: You and some others in his life have already tried to dissuade your dad from his biker dreams.
It seems to me the best tact to take now is to avoid fighting with him about it and see what happens. This could all be a lot of something for nothing, and if it does come to pass, your father is an adult and has the right to make his own decisions, no matter how much you disagree with their soundness.