DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: I’ve always thought my dad is a good-looking man. Even now, in his sixties, he turns heads when we’re out. That’s why I don’t get why he thinks he needs the hairpiece he started wearing a couple of months ago. He spent a lot of money on it, according to my stepmom, who also doesn’t think he needs it. So it isn’t that it looks cheap or anything, but it just doesn’t seem like something he would do. I never thought of my dad as all that concerned with his looks, so this doesn’t seem like him at all.
Do I wait awhile to see if this is just a passing thing, or should I say something to him before someone else’s comments hurt him? --- NO RUG FOR DAD
DEAR NO RUG FOR DAD: I’m a believer in letting people do what they need to in order to feel good about themselves — provided it doesn’t hurt anyone.
From your description, your father’s hairpiece isn’t your great-uncle Charlie’s cheap toupee, but hopefully something well-made and well-fitted. I say, if it makes your dad feel more self-confident, then you don’t need to worry, and should keep your observations to yourself.