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Laid Off Daughter Returns Home

Ask Someone Else's Mom by by Susan Writer
by Susan Writer
Ask Someone Else's Mom | April 16th, 2020

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: The restaurant where I was working as a hostess/business office helper went to carryout only when COVID-19 hit. The owners were really good about trying to rotate through the staff so everyone got a few hours a week, but they had to stop that to just keep in business. I am now on unemployment and have had to move back in with my mom.

The only good thing is I’m able to help out at my mom’s with my grandparents, both in their 80s and both have health problems. Mom’s a 911 dispatcher, and has been working odd shifts because of the county’s social distancing rules.

Even with helping with my grandparents, I feel kind of useless and like a failure, especially since I don’t see how some businesses are going to be able to hire anytime soon, if they even reopen at all, that is.

If I have to live here for a long time, I think I’ll go nuts. We all get along, but it is such a backslide for me it hurts. I’m trying to stay positive, but need all the help I can get. --- 24 AND BACK AT MOM’S

DEAR 24 AND BACK AT MOM’S: It’s time to make some lemonade out of the lemons you’ve been tossed.

By taking stress off your mom in the care of your grandparents, you’re helping serve both your community and your family. It must be nice for your mom to come home to a clean house and a hot meal (hint, hint), without her having to worry about either.

Financially, you can use some of your unemployment and/or stimulus money to help with the household expenses, and also put some funds away for when you’re back on your feet and on your own again.

This isn’t going to last forever, and some aspects of life will most likely stay different than before the pandemic, but most things will return to the way they were, and I highly suspect your independence will be among them.

Hang in there. As an older friend of mine used to say, “Better days are coming.”

COVID-19Family & Parenting
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Bratty Behavior in Public Stresses Aunt

Ask Someone Else's Mom by by Susan Writer
by Susan Writer
Ask Someone Else's Mom | April 14th, 2020

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: My sister and I have always helped each other out ever since we were kids. Now that we’re both married and living near each other, she sometimes asks if I can watch her two kids, my seven-year-old niece and five-year-old nephew. Since my sister is now pregnant with number three, I think it’s important that I am available to support her.

The problem is, and an aunt maybe shouldn’t say this, but the two kids act like brats in public when they don’t get their way. My sister usually either ignores them or caves if it'll shut them up. I don’t think that’s the way to go, and when I try to hold firm and not give into their tantrums, I get dirty looks and nasty comments from other adults about how I can’t control “my kids.” It’s really to the point where I don’t want to take them out, but how does that help my sister?

I know eating out may not be an issue for a while yet, since our state is on carryout only (when you can find an open restaurant at all), but once things get back to normal, what do I do to get these kids to behave when we’re out? --- TRYING TO BE A GOOD AUNTIE

DEAR TRYING TO BE A GOOD AUNTIE: “Getting back to normal.” That sure sounds good to me!

Unfortunately, your sister has set the example of placating her children when they misbehave. They know they’ll get what they demand, and now they want to train you like they’ve trained their mother.

It isn’t your job to parent your niece and nephew, but you can be both the supportive sister and the good aunt if you set rules and expectations for how the kids are to behave when in your care. If they hit you with, “But our mom lets us,” your response is a firm, “I’m not your mom.”

Instilling a little good behavior in her children could be one of the best things you could do for your sister. Two kids are a hard job to begin with. Once it’s three against one, your sister won’t stand a chance.

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Parents Fear for ER Nurse Daughter & A Note from “Mom”

Ask Someone Else's Mom by by Susan Writer
by Susan Writer
Ask Someone Else's Mom | April 10th, 2020

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: Our daughter is an emergency room nurse in Florida. She has two small children and a husband, who is a high school biology teacher. While our son-in-law keeps us posted about what’s happening when our daughter can’t, we worry that if something happens to her, he won’t want to frighten us and we won’t know until things are really bad, and everything we see on the news only makes it worse.

We couldn’t be prouder of our daughter and all the medical people holding the front lines. But how do we convince our son-in-law that not only can we take the truth, but we need to hear it? --- PROUD BUT WORRIED IN OREGON

DEAR PROUD BUT WORRIED IN OREGON: I think it’s reasonable for you to openly share your feelings with both your daughter and her husband. It’s possible they need to hear directly from you how serious you are about wanting to be part of their lives, especially now. They may be hoping to shield you, not realizing that in some instances, the lack of reliable, first-hand reports can be worse than all the information overload to which we’re constantly exposed.

A Note from “Mom”

Like the parents in today’s letter, my family and I are proud of, and incredibly grateful to, all the men and women and their families, who are rising to the occasion and tending not only to COVID-19 victims, but to everyone else in need in our communities.

To the medical staff at all levels, first responders, public health workers, military personnel, essential retail employees, and everyone putting their own health and safety on the line to help keep the rest of us safe and well — thank you for all you do, and may God bless you and your efforts.

COVID-19Family & Parenting

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