DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: My roommate is a self-confessed “dive bar diva.” She is at home at some of the sleaziest places I’ve ever seen, and she is always bugging me to go out with her.
She’s a great roommate and has been getting to be a good friend, but I have to draw the line at going out with her to bars I don’t feel safe in. Does that mean I’m not a very good friend after all? --- NOT A DIVE BAR DIVA
DEAR NOT A DIVE BAR DIVA: Have you made it clear to your roommate that her choice of bars isn’t yours?
Be open with her about your comfort level at her favorite haunts. Maybe it’d be a good idea to find other things to do when you want to go out that you both might enjoy — and that won’t involve bars at all.