life

Overhanging Tree Limb Causes Concern

Ask Someone Else's Mom by by Susan Writer
by Susan Writer
Ask Someone Else's Mom | November 6th, 2019

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: My husband is our lawn maintenance guy by choice, which since I have loads of allergies, works just fine for me.

What doesn’t work fine for me is that two of our neighbor’s trees hang over the fence, with one of the big old branches practically resting on the top of it. I’m nervous that if this branch or any of the other ones go, they’ll take the fence on our property down with it.

I want my husband to talk to the neighbors about this, but he doesn’t want to cause any hard feelings with them, which I don’t think will happen. They seem reasonable, so I think my husband is just making excuses.

What would be so wrong about talking to the neighbors about this problem? --- MY HUSBAND NEEDS A PUSH

DEAR MY HUSBAND NEEDS A PUSH: It’s understandable that you have concerns about the overhanging branches. Your homeowner’s policy may only cover certain kinds of damage, under certain conditions, and a fence can be an expensive repair project. Property laws also govern how the rights and obligations are assigned in circumstances like these.

Check your insurance policy and local laws, and then offer your husband some reasonable, solid arguments that might help persuade him to take preventative steps to avoid bigger problems down the road. Perhaps you can also offer to go with him when he’s ready to talk with your neighbors.

life

A Different Kind of Home Invasion

Ask Someone Else's Mom by by Susan Writer
by Susan Writer
Ask Someone Else's Mom | November 5th, 2019

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: We recently had to do some major work to the outside of our house. My husband’s brother agreed to help. His wife asked if she and their kids could come along to visit while the guys worked. My husband politely asked her to come at a different time.

As I was about to leave for work, my brother-in-law showed up ─ with the rest of the family. My husband looked stunned and said nothing. When I expressed surprise, my sister-in-law simply said, “Yeah, we weren’t going to come, but then just decided to be here.”

I’m not comfortable leaving her inside my home while I’m gone. I felt that I had to cancel my work, which I did, but it was unfair to my place of work.

We think that she was very rude to show up after specifically being asked not to.

What would have been the best way to handle this? --- MIFFED COUPLE

DEAR MIFFED COUPLE: Your sister-in-law sounds like quite the determined woman, to put it mildly, which I’m betting some of the following commenters won’t.

Perhaps except for your husband’s having been too polite, rather than firm in his “no” to his sister-in-law, the situation seems to have been out of both your hands. It’s unfortunate you had to change your schedule and inconvenience your coworkers. That you express discomfort at having your sister-in-law alone in your house is also a pretty big clue this is not the most easy-going relationship in the family, and now, here’s one more straw on the camel’s back.

Since you aren’t in control of your sister-in-law’s impulses, it might be best if your husband finds other help besides his brother on the next big project. That way they can save their time together for visits that work on your and your husband’s terms and schedules.

life

Au Pair Has a Thing for Employer

Ask Someone Else's Mom by by Susan Writer
by Susan Writer
Ask Someone Else's Mom | October 31st, 2019

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: I am a live-in au pair to three young children, between the ages of one and five, who are beyond terrific and have really snagged my heart. I am also too embarrassed to tell even my best friends that I have a huge crush on my employer, their dad. I hardly ever see his wife since she’s an ER doctor and works long and weird hours, which is one reason they hired me. The dad is in school administration, so he has a lot of night meetings, which is another reason I have this job. It is usually the dad I see much more than the mom and he is possibly the hottest guy I know.

I am not looking to start anything with him, especially since I do not think he is at all interested in me, but I sometimes think I would be better finding another job so nothing can happen. Is that too radical a move over a crush? --- WORKING FOR ONE HOT DAD

DEAR WORKING FOR ONE HOT DAD: If you can keep tight tabs on your feelings, and it really is just a crush, then it may not be worth giving up a job you enjoy. However ─ and it’s one big however ─ if you believe your attraction to him is something you can’t help but act on, then hand in your notice immediately and find a new job.

Next up: More trusted advice from...

  • Is My Perfect Relationship Turning Toxic?
  • Should I Change My Standards Or Hold Out For My Dream Girl?
  • Does My Girlfriend Want to Be With Me Or Her Ex?
  • Flip the Sheet Pan Dinner
  • A Mutual Salad Treaty
  • Fooling Around With Lemons
  • Astro-Graph for January 31, 2023
  • Astro-Graph for January 30, 2023
  • Astro-Graph for January 29, 2023
UExpressLifeParentingHomePetsHealthAstrologyOdditiesA-Z
AboutContactSubmissionsTerms of ServicePrivacy Policy
©2023 Andrews McMeel Universal