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Cussing in Front of Grandmother Upsets GF and Parents

Ask Someone Else's Mom by by Susan Writer
by Susan Writer
Ask Someone Else's Mom | September 18th, 2019

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: I am seeing a guy who works with a bunch of former military types. To say they cuss a lot is an understatement. When my boyfriend comes over to my house for a meal or to hang out, he keeps the cussing up, even in front of my 83-year-old grandma. I pretty much try to screen it out and my dad has said something to him a couple of times, but I know it really bugs my mom, and I’ve seen the look on my grandmother’s face more than once when he keeps dropping F bombs.

I’ve asked him to tone it down, but he doesn’t seem to think there’s anything wrong. What more can I do? --- WITH A ROUGH ONE

DEAR WITH A ROUGH ONE: There seems to be a diminishing awareness, or concern, that not everyone is okay with constant cussing. Your parents and grandma aren’t alone. Personally, it bugs me too. It is possible to exert some effort to modify your vocabulary in certain circumstances. Your boyfriend’s lack of effort shows disrespect to your family, and if you can’t persuade him that he needs to tone it down ─ even after being spoken to by your dad ─ then it might be better if you limit his exposure to your parents and grandmother. I doubt he’s scoring any points with them based on his conversational skills anyway.

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Sibling Learns Lesson from Shakespeare

Ask Someone Else's Mom by by Susan Writer
by Susan Writer
Ask Someone Else's Mom | September 17th, 2019

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: In his last year of college I loaned my brother some money to help him pay the last month’s rent before he moved home. He had been working at a restaurant that closed a few weeks before he graduated, and no one wanted to hire someone for such a short time.

I don’t regret helping him out, but that was two years ago, and he has been working steadily since moving back home. He doesn’t pay rent for now, but I do, and every time I remind him about the money he owes me, he tells me he’ll get it for me the next time he gets paid, but so far, nothing’s come my way. I have even mentioned it to our dad, and he sticks up for my brother, saying maybe I should forgive the loan, which I might have thought of doing, but not anymore. It has created tension every time I go home to see my parents and my brother is there and I hate that. Is it petty to want my money back? --- STILL WAITING FOR PAYDAY

DEAR STILL WAITING FOR PAYDAY: Shakespeare’s advice, “Neither a borrower nor a lender be” never goes out of style for a reason.

You have a choice to make. Either you give your brother an ultimatum for repayment by a designated date, or you walk away from the debt, forgiving and forgetting ─ two actions that don’t necessarily work together in reality.

If you chose to collect, make the case of your need strong, letting him know you have bills to pay. If you opt for forgiveness, try to look at it as a belated graduation, birthday, Hanukkah, and Christmas gift all rolled into one ─ and, leave it at that.

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Cheap Boss Gets Cheaper

Ask Someone Else's Mom by by Susan Writer
by Susan Writer
Ask Someone Else's Mom | September 12th, 2019

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: My boss has always been on the cheap side, at least for the three years I’ve worked for him, but it has gotten really bad lately. He is having the staff take turns bringing in toilet paper, paper towels, and cleaning supplies. The cleaning crew has been cancelled, and now we’re also in charge of cleaning the kitchen and bathroom on a rotating schedule.

I get everyone is looking to help the bottom line, and the work we do is important and makes me feel like I’m making a difference, but doesn’t this sound like too much cheapness? --- NEXT UP ON NAPKINS

DEAR NEXT UP ON NAPKINS: This situation is sending up big red flags. Your company may be in financial trouble if the cost-cutting is becoming extreme.

A less dire possibility is your boss wants everyone invested in the daily life of the company ─ literally. If everyone knows they’re going to have a turn cleaning the shared areas, hopefully everyone will also be more inclined to take care of their surroundings.

For your sake, I hope it’s option B. Just in case though, you might want to start polishing your resume.

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