DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: My mom is driving me crazy with her always calling or texting me with reminders of stuff she wants to make sure I don’t forget to do, like I am a kindergartener or something, instead of an adult man. I asked my sister about whether or not Mom does this to her, and she told me no.

How do I get my mother off my back? --- NOT A LITTLE KID ANYMORE

DEAR NOT A LITTLE KID ANYMORE: I agree that adults should be treated like adults, but it’s up to them to act that way. Have you given your mother cause to believe you might not be the most organized person in the world?

If you believe your mom is unfairly singling you out, or not trusting you to take care of things for yourself, by all means, talk to her; but also listen to what she has to say about how she sees you getting by. It may be that she’s having trouble cutting the apron strings ─ or that you actually could use a little nudge now and again.

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: My girlfriend and I have been together for nearly a year and her mom and dad live in two different towns only about two hours away. It bugs me that even though she goes home every couple months for a weekend, she has never invited me along, and has never even talked about my meeting her parents.

We’re not getting married or even engaged anytime soon, but don’t you think it’s odd she never invites me home with her? She’s met my parents a bunch of times already. --- WANTS TO MEET THE PARENTS

DEAR WANTS TO MEET THE PARENTS: It could be that going home for her isn’t an easy experience, especially if she tries to get in visits with her mom, her dad, other family members, and some old friends. It’s also possible that there’s something in her family situation she hasn’t shared with you yet.

Talk to her about your feelings. For all you know, she may be assuming you have no interest in going with her. You may find she’s been waiting for you to open the door.

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: Although my wife won’t say anything, she is really and truly pissed off at our daughter for how she spent a cash gift we sent her a couple weeks ago when she was in a tight situation with her new job. Our daughter has just been with a computer repair company for less than a month. She started in a weird place in the pay cycle, so she had to wait almost three weeks to get her first paycheck. My wife felt sorry for her, so she sent her a couple hundred dollars to tide her over. Next thing we know, we see our daughter bought a new iPad less than a week after we sent her the cash. Here we’re worried she won’t be making rent or eating, and she shells out money on a new piece of tech.

Since my wife won’t say anything about how upset she is, should I? --- NOT THE BEST WAY TO SPEND MONEY

DEAR NOT THE BEST WAY TO SPEND MONEY: Since she works at a computer repair company, it’s possible that the iPad was refurbished, and not very expensive. Still, if she was truly hard-pressed for funds, I agree it’s not the smartest thing to do with some found cash.

Consider it a lesson learned. The money you sent your daughter was a gift, and so she was free to use it as she chose. You might want to let her know you thought she’d find a more practical use for the gift, or even suggest she could have put it aside for a rainy day if her paychecks are now coming in regularly, because sometimes it rains.