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Dad Thinks Daughter's New Look Sends Wrong Message

Ask Someone Else's Mom by by Susan Writer
by Susan Writer
Ask Someone Else's Mom | July 31st, 2019

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: Everyone tells me I should be happy she isn’t covered with tattoos and piercings, but my 17-year-old daughter has recently gotten into this new look. The funky clothes don’t worry me as much as the biker-chick makeup, and what’s with the greasy hair?

I keep telling her heading to college looking like that is going to send out a lot of wrong messages, but she doesn’t want to hear it, and her mom, my ex, says she’s fine with it. I just know what I would have thought about a girl looking like that when I was 19-20, and that’s not how I want my daughter to be taken. Am I wrong here? --- WORRIED DAD

DEAR WORRIED DAD: Sometimes we have to pick our battles, and this may be one of those times.

You’ve made your opinion clear, which is what parents have a right to do. Now, you have to step back and let her do her thing, which is another part of being a parent. If she doesn’t feel like you’re judging her every choice, she’ll be a lot more likely to keep you in her life.

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Tropical Paradise Wedding Plans Don't Thrill MOG

Ask Someone Else's Mom by by Susan Writer
by Susan Writer
Ask Someone Else's Mom | July 30th, 2019

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: My son and his fiancée just set the date and destination for their wedding. I am fine with the date, but the destination is a Caribbean island I never even heard of before they picked it. I started looking up plane fare and other details and when I say there’s nothing there, there’s nothing there. Everyone and everything will have to be brought to the location from another island.

This is their choice, and we’re lucky that the bride’s family is picking up most of the tab for the wedding itself, but we want to have friends and relatives from our side at the event, and I can’t even begin to imagine how I am going to ask them to put out a ton of money to attend. The flight alone will be several hundred dollars a person from where most of us live.

I don’t know my future daughter-in-law’s family very well, and I feel funny saying something to her. Do I tell my son how nuts I think all of this is from the guests’ perspective? I feel embarrassed just thinking of asking people, and yet don’t want to offend anyone by NOT asking. --- WHY COULDN’T THEY ELOPE?

DEAR WHY COULDN’T THEY ELOPE?: I understand your discomfort. It puts you in a tough situation, but I think when the time comes, you need to extend the invitation and accept this destination wedding will simply not be the destination for everyone.

Before things get too far, you need to share your concerns openly with your son and your future daughter-in-law. If they’re set on this plan, you might offer to hold a celebration honoring the couple after the wedding for your close family and friends who can’t make the trip for the main event.

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LW Doesn’t Trust Grandfather's Executor

Ask Someone Else's Mom by by Susan Writer
by Susan Writer
Ask Someone Else's Mom | July 25th, 2019

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: My mother’s cousin was appointed as executor to first my grandmother’s and then now my grandfather’s estates.

I know there were things that my mother had been promised that she never got when Grandma died, and now, there are a lot of things that Grandpa always said he wanted my brother and me to have, especially since our own father died when we were young and our grandfather was more like a dad to us. He was really good with repairs and stuff and had a lot of high-end tools to do different jobs around his house and ours.

Mom’s cousin seems to have decided his kids need the tools more than we do, but Mom says there was something in the will about our getting them. She has never seen the will and her cousin keeps saying he’ll send her a copy, but so far, nothing.

Can he get away with this? --- GIPPED IN OHIO

DEAR GIPPED IN OHIO: Family feuds are often started over wills, especially if the contents of the will vary from longstanding promises or understandings.

As executor, your mom’s cousin may only be obligated to notify the beneficiaries about what they are to receive, not to share the complete contents of the will. That may mean if the tools weren’t specifically designated as coming to you and your brother, their distribution, unfair as it seems, may have been left to the executor’s discretion.

Hopefully, you’ll get a better idea of how things stand when your mother sees the will.

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