DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: I started seeing a guy who works at company that competes with the company where I work. The owners of the two used to be partners, but about 10 years ago they went their separate ways, not without a little bad blood. I don’t want to have problems if my boss finds out I’m with one of his competitor’s employees, but I also don’t want him to think I’m sneaking around with the enemy. Do I tell my boss, or just take my chances? --- LIKE THE GUY FROM THE OTHER CAMP
DEAR LIKE THE GUY FROM THE OTHER CAMP: As long as neither you nor your boyfriend are divulging any proprietary or confidential information that could harm your respective companies, and provided you are not breaking any contractual agreements, your boss may not be happy about your choice in men, but he has no right to direct your life outside the office.
However, and it’s a big however, it’s not unreasonable to expect some tension in your relationship resulting from working for competitors. You’ll need to take office talk off the table, and exercise constant vigilance to avoid accidental slip-ups that could cost either or both of you your jobs.