DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: My maid of honor asked for a list of must-have guests for my bridal shower. I come from a large family, most of which live nearby here in Central Florida, but one cousin is married to a Canadian and they live in Alberta.

I am on the fence about inviting her, because I don’t want her to feel like she has to travel down here for the shower and then in a few weeks again for the wedding. One of my aunts said I should as a courtesy. What do you think? --- FLORIDA BRIDE-TO-BE

DEAR FLORIDA BRIDE-TO-BE: By all means, I say send her an invitation. She may surprise you and be able to attend, and if not, you won’t run the risk of offending her when she finds out she didn’t get invited, especially if all the other female relatives did.

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: I think that if one of your friends snitches on another that the snitch deserves to get locked out of the group.

My now ex-friend told my now ex-girlfriend I’d been hooking up with another girl and that finished us off. Another one of my friends thinks I had it coming and doesn’t see why I’m so pissed at the guy with the big mouth. Who’s right here? --- EX-FRIEND OF A SNITCH

DEAR EX-FRIEND OF A SNITCH: It may not have been his place to tell your ex-girlfriend that you were cheating on her, but if you hadn’t been cheating, he wouldn’t have had anything to tell.

That one of your mutual friends is siding with the guy you call a snitch may imply the guy who spilled the beans isn’t your only friend who didn’t agree with your actions.

You decide for yourself how you want to deal with your ex-friend, and leave it up to your other friends to do the same.

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: My company cut my job two weeks ago. I had been with them long enough to get three month’s severance pay and once that runs out, if I haven’t found another job, I will apply for unemployment.

Between those two things and my being really careful with my spending, I should be able to continue paying my share of the expenses in the apartment I share with another woman. The thing is, we are not at all that close, and I have not told her about my losing my job yet. I don’t want her to panic about the rent and everything, especially since I can cover those things.

Is there anything wrong with not telling her? We hardly see each other when I’m working, so I don’t know how much it really matters? --- OUT OF WORK, NOT CASH

DEAR OUT OF WORK, NOT CASH: If your living arrangement is a strictly business one, then there’s less reason to share details of your life with your roommate. However, if it looks like your time unemployed will drain you to the point of not being able to uphold your share of expenses, you should let her know your situation so she can decide what she needs or wants to do to protect herself financially.