DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: I think that if one of your friends snitches on another that the snitch deserves to get locked out of the group.

My now ex-friend told my now ex-girlfriend I’d been hooking up with another girl and that finished us off. Another one of my friends thinks I had it coming and doesn’t see why I’m so pissed at the guy with the big mouth. Who’s right here? --- EX-FRIEND OF A SNITCH

DEAR EX-FRIEND OF A SNITCH: It may not have been his place to tell your ex-girlfriend that you were cheating on her, but if you hadn’t been cheating, he wouldn’t have had anything to tell.

That one of your mutual friends is siding with the guy you call a snitch may imply the guy who spilled the beans isn’t your only friend who didn’t agree with your actions.

You decide for yourself how you want to deal with your ex-friend, and leave it up to your other friends to do the same.

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: My company cut my job two weeks ago. I had been with them long enough to get three month’s severance pay and once that runs out, if I haven’t found another job, I will apply for unemployment.

Between those two things and my being really careful with my spending, I should be able to continue paying my share of the expenses in the apartment I share with another woman. The thing is, we are not at all that close, and I have not told her about my losing my job yet. I don’t want her to panic about the rent and everything, especially since I can cover those things.

Is there anything wrong with not telling her? We hardly see each other when I’m working, so I don’t know how much it really matters? --- OUT OF WORK, NOT CASH

DEAR OUT OF WORK, NOT CASH: If your living arrangement is a strictly business one, then there’s less reason to share details of your life with your roommate. However, if it looks like your time unemployed will drain you to the point of not being able to uphold your share of expenses, you should let her know your situation so she can decide what she needs or wants to do to protect herself financially.

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: There is a woman on my bowling team, not much older than me, who lost her husband just over a year ago. They got married right out of college, and after a couple of years, he went into a deep depression and ended up killing himself. I wasn’t on the team when all this happened, but I’ve heard the story from the other people we bowl with.

I really like this woman, but am nervous about making any moves. It’s only been a year since she went through all that, and I don’t want to blow any chance I might have with her by asking her out too soon. Is it too soon? --- WORRIED ABOUT TIMING

DEAR WORRIED ABOUT TIMING: Losing a spouse is one of life’s biggest traumas, no matter when it happens, losing any loved one to suicide is a particularly cruel blow.

If you’re not aware of the woman’s being at all inclined to start dating again, I wouldn’t push the issue. She may be more in need of friends than romantic relationships while she deals with her grief.