DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: I love my grandparents, and I want them to be part of my baby’s life, but when I went to pick my six-month-old son up at their house after they watched him for me so my husband and I could finally have a nice, quiet lunch together outside of our house, I found out that my grandparents took our son to the park in their car, with my grandmother holding him in her arms.
I went nuts and told them they are never going to be left alone with our baby again. Wasn’t I right? I feel guilty, but still . . . --- CAN’T TRUST MY GRANDPARENTS
DEAR CAN’T TRUST MY GRANDPARENTS: My question to you is, did you leave the car seat with your grandparents, after instructing them in its proper use?
I completely understand your being upset, but a little training, or retraining, can go a long way in a world where the standards and tools of safety keep changing every few years.
And, since you clearly have some confidence in their ability to take care of your baby, help them understand what your expectations are during the times he’s in their care.