DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: I remember years ago having a conversation with some girlfriends about whether or not any of us had the experience of the kids walking in on a love making session. At that point, I was among the women who said no.

However, now that our kids are all grown and out of the house, it happened the other night that one of them decided to pop in after going to the movies, and figuring my husband and I were just reading in bed, did a quick knock and enter. Well, we weren’t reading, but we were busy. Our daughter just pulled the door shut and beat a hasty retreat. I haven’t spoken to her since, and was wondering if you think it’s a good thing to bring it up, or just let sleeping dogs lie? --- CAUGHT IN THE ACT

DEAR CAUGHT: Whether you bring the situation up or not depends on the relationship you have with your daughter and how you’ve dealt with the subject of sex up to this point with her.

Personally, I’d hope she finds it reassuring and inspirational that the “old man and woman” still get it on ─ a concept that often seems to elude younger people.

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: I am engaged to a really good guy who happens to be a dentist. What is a little funny and a lot frustrating is that when something is bothering him, I am the one who has to pull teeth to get anything out of him.

My mom says my dad is always the same way. Why is it so hard for guys to just come out with it? --- TEETH PULLING FIANCÉE

DEAR TEETH-PULLING: I’d like to say it gets easier, but that might be a lie.

Your complaint probably dates back to Adam and Eve, and has been voiced by most of the women I know at one time or another. Whether it’s genetics, training, or a little bit of both, it’s the way many men are. In time you may learn ways to break down the resistance, but being patient and mildly persistent will let him know you’re ready to listen when he’s ready to talk.

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: I work at a small family-owned company that manufactures and sells custom window treatments. My first job here was as a receptionist. A few weeks ago I was promoted into sales. The potential of the move was why I took the job in the first place.

While I really like the job, my boss, who is the owner’s youngest son, treats me like I’m still the receptionist. He talks down to me and acts as if I’m incapable of learning anything new. If I didn’t hear from the other salespeople that I’m doing really well and have picked up on the job faster than most people they’ve helped train, I’d begin doubting myself.

I don’t know how to convince my boss he’s wrong about me, and I’m a little intimidated because he’s the owner’s son.

How do I manage to get him to respect me without jeopardizing my job? --- MOVING UP

DEAR MOVING UP: Some people are slow to keep up with changes, and it sounds like your boss is one of them. The best way you can prove yourself is to continue doing your job and doing it well.

It might not hurt if your more established coworkers put in a good word for you, either directly, or by just happening to praise you within your boss’s earshot.