DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: Every year, since we’ve been together, my husband gets me some sexy lingerie for Valentine’s Day. I suppose it’s a sweet gesture, but I can’t help wondering who it’s really for, him or me? --- JUST WONDERING

DEAR JUST WONDERING: If you both enjoy the gift, does it really matter?

Maybe your husband is trying to treat you to something he knows you might not splurge on for yourself, but that makes you feel attractive. It could also be his shorthand way of reminding you how sexy he thinks you are.

Whatever the motive, say, “Thank you,” and enjoy.

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: Growing up I always remember my parents shared their income and saw it as family funds. But my husband is always referring to “my money” and “your money”, and it kind of bothers me. I always hear how money is a source of trouble for couples and we have enough for what we need, but should I be concerned that we see things so differently? --- BELIEVER IN JOINT ACCOUNTS

DEAR BELIEVER IN JOINT ACCOUNTS: While the majority of couples may share your parents’ philosophy, there are many who keep money in a separate bubble from the rest of their shared assets. Your husband may feel the need to have independent funds, or that when it comes to money, your partnership is more on a business than a marital footing, which may work for him, but not for you.

Since it’s causing you concern, you need to have an open, honest discussion about how you feel your finances should be conducted. It may be an eye-opener for you both, and until you understand each other’s perspective, the situation isn’t likely to improve.

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: Let me start by saying I am not a prude, but when I saw the gown my daughter bought for her wedding, I really had to bite my tongue. It cost her a fortune and it is cut so low in the front and back that little is left to the imagination. She is having a church wedding, at the church she grew up attending. My husband and I don’t know what to do. We’re fairly certain the priest will not appreciate the boldness of the dress, and neither will some of our older relatives and friends. How do I tell my daughter her dress is inappropriate for a church ceremony? --- BLUSHING MOTHER OF THE BRIDE

DEAR BLUSHING MOTHER OF THE BRIDE: Talk to your daughter and let her know your concern. Many churches require brides to cover their shoulders during the ceremony. Check to see if yours is one of them. There are loads of options for cover-ups, jackets, or wraps that your daughter could wear during the ceremony.