DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: My great-grandmother recently passed away. When I was little we would always spend at least one of the holidays at her apartment and we would stay for a few days. My cousin, who is the same age as I am, and I would play dress-up using some of our great-grandmother’s old clothes. She even let us put on her old fur coats, which I remember weighed a ton and made us sweat.

Now that she is gone, we found out she left one of the fur coats each to my cousin and me. While we both think this was a sweet gesture, neither of us wants the coats, but we don’t know what to do with them. We figure they may be worth something. Any suggestions? --- COVERED IN FUR

DEAR COVERED: Unfortunately, real fur coats these days are not generally worth nearly what they were when they were in vogue. But if you’re not looking to keep them, you still have a few options for what to do with your legacy ─ although none of them is likely to make you much, if any money.

You could consider donating them to a local coat drive, thrift store, or theatre company; consigning them to a shop that accepts vintage furs; listing on eBay; or checking into organizations that collect old furs to repurpose them into a variety of pet and household items.

Whatever you chose to do with the coats, you’ll hopefully be honoring the memory of an important lady in your lives.

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: My father-in-law and I get along very well. But the one thing we always disagree on is his getting to a doctor more often. Although he is only in his late 50s, he is a large man, with diabetes and a family history of heart disease. He lives alone, and I worry about something happening to him, not to mention he almost never goes to the doctor, and if he does he almost never follows their advice. I worry it will take a crisis for him to realize he needs to be under more careful medical supervision. How do I get him to take his health more seriously? --- CONCERNED DAUGHTER-IN-LAW

DEAR CONCERNED: You could start with a firm offer to drive him to his medical appointments. Then, if he’ll allow it and you haven’t already done so, get yourself and/or your spouse on your father-in-law’s approved contact list with his doctors. This will put you in the loop of his medical care.

If neither of the above work out, try bringing providers to him through mobile health services, if available in your area. You could also take on preparing or buying diabetic-friendly meals and eating them with him when you can. And, it wouldn’t be a bad idea to contact your local chapter of the American Diabetes Association, which is a good source of information, including diabetic lifestyle guidelines and where to find support groups for caregivers as well as those living with diabetes.

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: Since my boyfriend and I started dating two years ago I have had long hair. But every few years I want a change and last week I went for a super short cut. It isn’t a buzz, but it is pretty short, and I love it.

The problem is, I keep catching my boyfriend looking at me with a strange expression and he keeps making not always nice comments about how I look with the new style. Why do I feel like I did something wrong? --- SHORTER THAN USUAL

DEAR SHORTER: There’s nothing wrong with changing-up your look if it makes you feel good. So long as you’re happy with your new do, it’s pretty much too bad for your boyfriend. If he’s just in it for how you look, or at least how he thinks you should look, then you guys have bigger issues to face than your latest haircut.