DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: My wife and I haven’t had a vacation with just the two of us since before our twins were born four years ago.
Since my wife is currently home fulltime, for the last few years when my sister-in-law and her husband have gone on vacation they have left the kids with us. My sister-in-law has been offering for over a year now to watch our boys so my wife and I can get away, but my wife refuses to let her or anyone else do overnights with our kids.
This is not good for our marriage and I keep telling her that. What else can I do to wake her up to how much we need time for just the two of us? --- WANT TIME WITH MY WIFE
DEAR WANT TIME: It isn’t easy for some young mothers to take that first break from being Mommy, but it’s got to happen sooner or later.
Start small. Shoot for a long weekend or even just an overnight. Pick somewhere not too far from home, but far enough to give yourselves the simple luxury of being alone in the car for two or three uninterrupted hours. Follow it up with an adults-only meal in a grown-up type restaurant, and a whole night to spend as you used to before the kids came along.
Surviving a night or two away from your twins could help convince your wife that it’s okay to loosen the reins every now and then.