DEAR NATALIE: My daughter just started college, and as any mother would, I worry. I worry about where she is at night, whom she's hanging out with, if she's partying and if she's dating. Well, recently she came to me and asked if I could go with her to get birth control.
I almost fell over. I don't know if I'm ready to deal with her growing up (it seems) so fast! I know she wants to do these things, but do you think if I take her to get on the pill I'm just encouraging certain behaviors? Not sure what to think, but I want to be there for her. -- FLUSTERED MOM
DEAR FLUSTERED MOM: You should feel really proud that your daughter thought highly enough of you (and trusted you enough) to share about wanting to protect herself. She's a realist, and you have to be one, too, mom.
While we never want to think of our kids growing up and becoming young adults, remind yourself that you have given her the tools she needs to make the right choices. So when she comes to you wanting to make the right choice, support her.
Worrying that you will "encourage certain behaviors" isn't going to help anything. In fact, you are encouraging responsible behavior by protecting her from unwanted pregnancy and the tough decisions that come along with that.
So, take a deep breath, mom. Take her to get what she needs, and then after get what you need -- a big glass of wine!
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(This column was originally published by the Pittsburgh Post-Gazette.)
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