DEAR NATALIE: My boyfriend and I have been together a few months now, and recently he has been acting really moody toward me. Cold, aloof and not as excited to see me. When I ask him what's wrong, he either ignores me or tells me I "wouldn't understand." I don't know what set this off. What should I do? My friends are telling me to dump him, but I like him (or I thought I did, but now I'm not sure). Any thoughts? -- Confused Gal

DEAR CONFUSED GAL: My grandma always says, "Weather someone in all four seasons before deciding to get serious about them." (She is full of awesome advice, clearly!) I would take her saying to heart. If you are already seeing red flags four months in, you have to decide -- do you want to go further down this path? People show you who they are, so believe them. If this guy is acting moody, aloof and uncommunicative, why do you think this would suddenly improve the longer you are with him? In fact, he probably feels more comfortable being this way around you because it has been a few months and he is showing you this other side to him. If the idea of walking on eggshells around someone doesn't appeal to you, listen to your friends and get out of this situation. If, however, you want to give him an opportunity to shape up, say something like, "While I respect your privacy and desire to work out whatever it is you are dealing with, I cannot be in a relationship with someone who doesn't want to share their ups and downs with me. If you don't want to be with someone like that, maybe it's best if we go our separate ways." If that doesn't shake him up enough to talk with you, it's time to walk away. 

Natalie's Networking Tip of the Week: Rejection is part of the game. Don't take it personally if someone brushes you off or just doesn't seem interested in who you are or what you have to offer. Those aren't the people who are worth networking with, anyway, so just politely excuse yourself from the conversation and it's on to the next! 

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While the saying goes “you can’t pick your family,” you can pick how you want to respond to them, and in the world of soon-to-be bride (and royal) Meghan Markle, she is choosing to ignore those members of her family who seem hell-bent on smearing her in the press leading up to her fairy tale day. Maybe it’s jealousy? Perhaps it’s hurt feelings? Whatever the reason behind the venom spewing from her estranged half-sister and half-brother, it seems relentless.

This behavior in the tabloids started nice enough. Her older half-sister, Samantha Grant, stated months ago that she wished that they could reconnect during this happy time. But, those comments have since taken a different tone as it was recently reported when Prince Harry announced that 1,200 people will be able to watch the royal couple get married at Windsor Castle on Saturday. It was recommended that these people bring a picnic basket, to which Samantha tweeted: “Wow, do they get sent to dungeons if their children get grouchy and express that they’re hungry with no catering? Bring your own picnic basket? Really? Even low-budget film sets have roach coaches selling burgers and taquitos.”

If that wasn’t bad enough, Ms. Markle also has to contend with her older half-brother, Thomas Markle Jr., who recently penned an open letter to the royal family that was published in In Touch Weekly. He urged Prince Harry to reconsider marrying Ms. Markle, stating that “as more time passes to your royal wedding, it became very clear that this is the biggest mistake in royal wedding history,” the 51-year-old wrote. “Meghan Markle is obviously not the right woman for you.” He adds that she is a “jaded, shallow, conceited woman that will make a joke of you and the royal family heritage.” He says later in the letter that he isn’t “bitter just baffled” that he hadn’t received an invitation.

Well, gee, I wonder why? Even though some within the castle have reportedly advised the couple to invite the estranged family members to help squash the negative talk in the press, I don’t blame her one bit for sticking to her guns and refusing to allow such negativity near her on her special day. Weddings are stressful enough. There are so many political landmines to avoid in any wedding, let alone a royal one. Even if she wanted to relent and invite them, at this point it is too late. It would look like the only reason she would be including them is to appease them and stop the negative stories. Plus, can you imagine the dirt they would spill after the wedding to the press?

While that might delight the tabloids and bloggers, I can’t imagine that would be a great way to start a marriage. The tweets and letters put out by her half-siblings say a lot more about them than they do about Ms. Markle, and if my family members were saying things like that about me publicly, they would be put on the “do not invite list,” too.

Natalie's Networking Tip of the Week: Remember that line: “Make new friends, but keep the old, one is silver and the other gold”? It applies to networking, as well. While new contacts can be exciting and keep things fresh, you never want to forget people who worked with you in the beginning. Nurture old relationships, too, because you never know what ideas you may be able to spark!

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DEAR NATALIE: My boyfriend and I took our time to get to know each other before jumping into titles and formalities. When I did meet his female friend, she was less than polite. He explained that's just her nature, and she hadn't gotten the memo yet either. It's been months since then, and there has been no action on her behalf to at least be cool with me. 

Yes, I get that we all have our separate lives and friends. No, I don't expect to become her new BFF. All I'm looking for is a little respect, that's all! If I were good friends with a guy who obtained a girlfriend, I would go out of my way to make her feel comfortable. 

Should I try to reach out to her, or is that overstepping my boundaries? I've asked him to invite her and her boyfriend out with us.

Perhaps I'll just let it go. He's very good to me, and I like him a lot. What do you think I should do? -- Girl Fail

DEAR Girl Fail: The chilly reception you are receiving from your boyfriend's girlfriend probably is because she has unresolved feelings for him. If she had a thing for him, she should have acted on it while he was single. Now, it's too late, and she's most likely jealous of your relationship. This sounds like "My Best Friend's Wedding." (And you are Cameron Diaz!) In all seriousness, don't bother with her. It isn't your problem and don't make it yours. Instead, be cordial but distant with her. Focus on your relationship with him, because it sounds like you are enjoying his company. Water what you want to grow and let the rest fade away. She'll get the hint. Maybe this will teach her to go after what she wants in life instead of waiting in the wings for things to happen. 

Please send your relationship and lifestyle questions to nbencivenga@post-gazette.com or tweet them to @NBSeen. You can also send postal letters to Natalie Bencivenga, 358 North Shore Drive, Pittsburgh, PA 15212

(This column was originally published by the Pittsburgh Post-Gazette.)