DEAR ABBY: My 28-year-old daughter is having our first grandchild. My daughter and I have a good relationship, but she doesn't want me to be around when she goes into labor.
All her life I have been the most loving and caring mother I could be to her. She has a great husband. Should I take it personally that she doesn't want me there when she goes into labor?
I have waited a long time to be a grandmother. I feel she should be happy to have me around. I'm deeply hurt that she won't let me be with her during this beautiful moment in her life. What do you think? -- SADDENED IN OREGON
DEAR SADDENED: This isn't about you, and I urge you not to personalize this as you are doing. Childbirth may, indeed, be a "beautiful moment," but it is also a challenge. This challenge is one your daughter may prefer to face with her husband at her side -- if even he is allowed to be there because of the pandemic. There will be plenty of beautiful moments you can share with your grandchild in the future, so concentrate on those.