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by Abigail Van Buren

Woman Happy To Be Alone Attracts Unwanted Sympathy

DEAR ABBY: I was invited to a professional ballgame by my landlord, who has season tickets. He asked that I remind him to give me the ticket because he sells the ones he doesn't use. I have "reminded" him three times now, but I still haven't made it to a game.

When you invite someone somewhere, is it polite to make them do the work? He brought it up to me; I didn't ask. Am I wrong? -- ANNOYED IN PENNSYLVANIA

DEAR ANNOYED: Asking someone to remind you of something makes sense if the person is more organized than you are. However, it is inconsiderate to extend an invitation and not follow through. I don't blame you for feeling annoyed because, after three reminders and no follow-through, it appears your landlord may not have been sincere in inviting you, or has sold the tickets to someone else.

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