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by Abigail Van Buren

Mom Has Fallen Out of Love With Good Man and Father

DEAR ABBY: I'm 63 and retired. I have two grown sons and grandchildren. Some of them are young, and some of them are young adults.

My husband of 10 years and I have decided to adopt the RV lifestyle and travel. My sons are always busy with their own lives and hardly ever reach out to me except to ask me to baby-sit or to tell me I "need to come see the grandkids." They make no effort to visit us, although we winter in the same state not far from them. I'm lucky if I ever receive a "How are you doing, Mom?" phone call. We see each family during the holidays.

When we travel, we'll be on the road four to six months at a time. Contact will be by phone or through social media only. I feel guilty for doing this. Why? -- GUILTY IN TEXAS

DEAR GUILTY IN TEXAS: If I had to guess, you feel guilty because you think it is your duty to be at your adult children's beck and call. You have a right to the adventure awaiting you, and I hope you and your husband will go ahead with it. If you do, you will make lifetime memories and new friendships together. If an emergency arises, you can always hightail it back. Remember: You have earned this, so please allow yourself to enjoy it.

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