DEAR ABBY: I just started dating an amazing guy. He is sweet, funny and handsome, but I don't feel as strongly for him as he does for me. Maybe it's too early in the relationship for me to be worried about feelings, or maybe as much as I want to have deep feelings for him, I don't.
Lately, I have been tempted to cheat. That sounds awful, I know, but for some reason, I feel it's my last chance before things start getting really serious with this guy. I want so badly to have this amazing relationship with him. It really feels like I could grow old with him, and I'd be OK with it. Or maybe I want a lifelong partner so badly that I'm forcing myself to keep seeing this guy. He's basically everything I've ever hoped for, and yet I'm hesitating, unwilling to give up being single and having freedom.
Is it normal to feel this way? Is it normal to have the urge to flee something amazing because I don't want to lose the ability to have total freedom? Or am I scared of commitment? Life is complicated; I am complicated. -- UNSURE IN THE SOUTH
DEAR UNSURE: From where I sit, you do not appear to be ready to settle down. Also, you have "just started" dating this amazing man. Unless he starts pushing you to have an exclusive relationship, you would be wise to give it more time and see how things play out. Whatever it is that is holding you back will become apparent if you proceed slowly.Read more in: Love & Dating
DEAR ABBY: My mother-in-law manipulates my husband into lying to me and going behind my back. She is hard on him if he doesn't return her calls promptly, to the point of calling the police and having them come to our home to "make sure his wife hasn't done anything to him."
She throws a tantrum if he calls her back when I'm around. She will speak to him only in private and doesn't want him to tell me about the calls or conversations. (He tells me anyway, although not all the details, which is fine.)
My husband and I feel her demands are destructive to our marriage. Last Thanksgiving was the first time he chose to spend the holiday with me and didn't see his family. It caused an uproar, and now she's giving him the cold shoulder and threatening to leave him out of the will. Help! -- IN-LAW BLUES IN TEXAS
DEAR BLUES: Your husband should not have had to choose between spending Thanksgiving with his wife or his family. There must be a lot more going on in addition to what you have put in your letter.
Be smart. The two of you should talk about this with a licensed marriage and family therapist who can help your husband find ways to cope with his mother's emotional blackmail and threats to disinherit him. Her need to control her son is sick and, I agree, destructive to your marriage. Please don't wait.Read more in: Family & Parenting | Marriage & Divorce | Holidays & Celebrations | Money
DEAR ABBY: I left high school in 1974 before graduating. I acquired my GED and don't know if it would be appropriate to attend my high school reunion all these years later. Any thoughts? -- REUNION IN OHIO
DEAR REUNION: For heaven's sake go! If you do, you will reunite with friends you haven't seen in many years, and I am sure they will be as glad to see you as you are to see them.Read more in: Work & School | Holidays & Celebrations
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